Romance, Love and Beyond
Love, that one time I ignored my toys in favour of the opposite sex! It’s funny and amusing to just digest the fact that a total stranger just hijacked the whole thought process for no obvious reason. Being utterly ignorant till the age of 19, I explored this supposedly the most beautiful feeling in this world at the sight of a FACEBOOK profile picture of someone I knew long before. Just from that moment of sight, I had it all clear. She is the one! It was as if I had sorted it all out (the past, the present and the future). It all made complete sense to me. Few years into the ordeal, I was left with utter pain of losing something that never belonged to me at the first place. Yes, love hurts, and it hurts for just no obvious logical reason.
To get off the whole hurt thing, I took solace from half of internet’s clichés about love. The quotes I mean! And guess what it takes you from being bad to worse. But then, it came to my rescue this instinct of mine to dwell more into a complication to simplify it. It’s usually the lack of clarity that creates most disturbing situations in life. With the information cloud around us 24X7, it’s just a slight effort from our side that could pull us out of the most maddening of situations. After hours of Internet surfing, I knew what I had to know, though from a dozen medical journals, videos and what not. So, what’s the knowledge that poets don’t tell you which you should know the next time you go through an utterly romantic poem.( No offence to poets of course, I do appreciate the art being one myself, though it would be wise to get straight some ground realities)
In a nutshell, romantic love is just your hormones messing up with the stable functioning of your brain. With MRI scanners, doctors and scientists were able to unravel the mystery of falling in love. On the onset of seeing someone who is identified by your brain to be resembling the characteristics similar to Kindness, loving, caring etc. your brain gives you a shot of Dopamine , which gives you a sudden rush of pleasure. Adrenaline, which is normally released during stressful situations is released by the body during the initial stages of seeing that other which makes your heart pump faster, your hands to sweat and your mouth to go dry. Well, obviously this has led humans to identify the heart as the symbol of love. Another hormone Serotonin excites the feeling of love and basically diverts your mind and bounds you to think about your lover and nothing else. There are a dozen other hormones and chemicals including the one’s which cuts off your reasoning ability, though discussing them at length would be the scope of a medical journal. (If interested in knowing more, Google: The chemistry behind love)
Its nature science at work, and is wonderful how it all connects to form the big picture, though is romantic love as much of a big deal as we have made ourselves to believe. . Sure nature has its own way of controlling our emotions, but then again should nature’s will be our will. These hormones that makes people fall in love, can sure kick start a relationship though cannot sustain because of its temporary nature.
Male, Female partnerships have been made a standard norm of the human society and this has a higher goal than just reproduction. This partnership has to survive tides of human society that could very well be stronger than the mightiest hurricane. To survive and blossom in such turbulence, calls for considerations beyond temporary hormone surges, to attributes of strong friendship and social acceptance. There can be no right hand thump rule for that’s idiosyncratic character. It’s a known fact that an individual may never find that perfect partner, though an overall synchronisation of the basic character is sure a must. And, more importantly, marriage and long romantic relationships being human made are not made for every human being, and so that’s one question that one should ask oneself.(Last 2 paragraphs, inspired from the teachings of Sadhguru Jaggi Vasudeev)